Tag Archives: Extroverts

SOMETIMES I WISH I WAS AN EXTROVERT

Dear World,

How do I become an extrovert if I’m an introvert?

I can’t imagine losing the introverted part of myself, but sometimes when I look at extroverts I get jealous. Exceedingly jealous. They easily interact with groups, they appear confident and all knowing, they can make friends easily, and they are the life of the party. Whereas I stand on the fringes looking at the world around me wishing I knew what to say and how to interact with them. It isn’t the people that scare me, or the situation per say, but the after. Making new friends can sometimes mean building a new world. How much time do I devote to one group and how much time can I devote to the other without angering anyone and still giving myself much needed solitude. It takes time and effort to nurture new relationships because the defenses I throw up need to crumble. Extroverts always look like they make friends, and maintain those friendships so easily because they don’t need to devote as much time to themselves. They’re comfortable going out and I’m more comfortable staying in. In that regard sometimes I do wish I was like an extrovert open, alive, and in control of social situations. Although, never disregard the introvert. We’re careful about who we let in, but when we let you in you’ll see sides of use other only get to glimpse. And – we’re pretty fantastic.

Kindest Regards,

Your Closest Friend

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feeling like i don’t belong at the party

Dear World,

Why do my friends insist on going to house parties when they know I spend the entire time wishing I wasn’t there?

No, sorry actually I don’t want to go to that house party. I’m awkward, it’s awkward, people you don’t know actually want to talk to you, and frankly I’m a terrible drunk. Parties that are small and intimate, okay! Big parties where you abandon me? Not okay! Definitely, not okay. Stick by me and I’ll be fine. Help lead the way and create opportunities for introductions. You’re the extrovert so help an introvert out! This time I won’t look at my watch, I’ll try to fit in with your crowd and be as inviting as possible. I’ll even smile. Miracle, right? Just goes to show that’s how much I care about you. In return you own me two days of silence, lots of chocolate, and a new book. Excellent, glad we could find a way to bribe me into going to this party so that you don’t have to show up alone.

Kindest Regards,

You Closest Friend

PHONE CAN BE SCARY THINGS

Dear World,

How do I explain to my extroverted friends the reason I always screen my calls?

No, I am not shy and I certainly am not so quiet I don’t actually know how to talk. The simple fact of the matter is, I don’t want to talk to you or anyone else. The ringing of the phone alone doesn’t compel me to pick it up, it only compels me to see who’s calling. Maybe I want to be alone and answering a phone will ruin that moment. Or I don’t have time to talk to you. Just because I’m reading doesn’t mean I’m not doing anything. This is one of those situation where – sincerely – it’s not you, it’s me.

Kindest Regards,

Your Closest Friend

I AM AN INTROVERT

Dear World,

Is it possible to nicely explain to an extrovert that you just want to be alone?

Because when I’m exhausted, emotionally and physically, I need peace and quiet. I need space and I need time to recharge. Yet, if you’re still sitting in my car talking to me eventually I’m going to ask you to leave…as politely as possible. If you don’t understand I’m tired. I get more frustrated because I’m coming apart. I’m not empathetic, and I don’t really show my emotions, but when I’m exhausted, irritated, and emotionally vulnerable sometimes “please just let me go home” can sometimes turn into “get the fuck out of my car”. And I apologize for that. Sincerely, I do.

Kindest Regards,

Your Closest Friend